so I try to do something really kind: I invite one of my friends to go to a concert for a band she loves with me because she's sad about breaking up with her ex-boyfriend, and I tell her she can pay me back for the ticket with groceries because I love her and want her to come with me, only to discover that the ex-boyfriend will be there.  And I now I feel like a big old asshole/moron.  GEEEZ.